Meditating On Love
A lot of people tend to not understand what love is. This phenomenon is not something that can only exist between two people who are often called lovers. There is love between friends, relatives, colleagues, among others. In fact, sometimes, people think of love because they think that no one loves them. But there are people who love them in their own ways. Obviously, no one can change your feelings about love because lust is part of your basic needs.
If there is at least one person who can take care of you, love you unconditionally and be there for you, you will definitely have a great time. Nevertheless, if you are yet to find love, you need to ask yourself this question: “What type of love am I looking for?”
Think thoroughly about this and note that meditation is the solution to every problem. This then brings us to the issue of “Love Meditation”. In order to understand this, we need to examine the meaning of love, what it means to be in a relationship, the importance of meditation and of course, how to embark on meditation for love.
What is love?
Love is a combination of intense emotions, behavior, and beliefs that are related to feelings of security, warmth, and respect for others. Love can also be applied to animals and non-human concepts and doctrine. For example, someone might say that he loves his dog, he loves freedom or he loves God.
Love is a topic that has been studied by philosophers, poets, writers and scholars for centuries, and people and groups have often debated about the definition of love. Although many people think that love is an expression of feelings, there are many differences about the true meaning of love. For instance, “I love you” may be more important to some people than others.
There is much debate as to whether love is a material choice or it is something that exists within a family (a matter of biology). Love is different from person to person and from one culture to another. At times, love may be an option but in some cases, it can not be controlled.
In the first moments of love, it is difficult to tell the difference between love and lust. Both involve physical attraction and a strong rush of feelings, coupled with intense sexual desire when one person is often closer to another. But it is important to note that only one of the two concepts is long-lasting and that is “love”.
The Difference Between Love & Lust
Love is something that is nurtured between two people and it grows with time. It involves determination, time, trust, and mutual acceptance.
Lust is related to sexual feelings that attract people at first and are stimulated by the desire to procreate. It is characterized by sex hormones and idealism, blurred sexual desire, and hinders our ability to see a person for what he/she really is. Therefore lust may not lead to a long-term relationship.
Some people argue that a proper relationship requires a balance between love and lust. In fact, human desire is often the first step in a long-term partnership, and keeping the first fragrance is an important part of the special couple’s delivery process.
Despite the fact that there are numerous definitions of love, many people agree that love plays an important role in physical and mental health. Several studies show the importance of love. Love plays a small role in mental health and there are many instances to prove this: the lack of love or poor display of affection for children may lead to a delay in development or contribute to sickness. Inequality can greatly reduce self-esteem and lead to depression. People who feel love and show love to others are happier. Love can play a role in long-term health.
One way to understand why love is important and why life is so close is to see the challenge of loneliness. We tend to overlook the problem of unity: a problem that no one should avoid to judge (personally), but the pain of loneliness cannot change and be cruel. First of all, we should not feel lonely. Dissatisfaction makes us better understand why we should have so much love. In terms of love, the world is more important than forgetting. It’s hard to know what all the problems related to love are, and if someone is anywhere else, they won’t enjoy the suffering of work.
When we’re alone, people can try to be friendly to us. They subject us to phone calls and emotional responses but it’s hard for them to escape unless you realize that this situation is for the benefit of those who care and look after them. We can look at the limitations of being your best friend and feel our needs. Often delayed or fast At the wrong time, we may worry that we will disappear in the face and no one will care or be disappointed with it.
In an ordinary company, we cannot share what is going through our minds: too much of our inner monologue is too small or intense, random, or anxious, full of interest. Our acquaintances have an understandable expectation that it is not wise to destroy them that their friends should be normal.
We have to work politely as well. No one encounters anger or fascination, character, or bitterness with special charm. We cannot take action or overstate. A radical revision of our true self is the price we pay for fun.
We must also acknowledge that most people that we don’t understand Some of our deepest concerns arise with empty understanding, boredom, or fear. Most people will not give a damn. Our profound thoughts will be of little interest. We must address a satisfactory paragraph. But briefly in the minds of almost everyone
Quietly destroying these spirits of single life. Love promises to fix in the company of lovers. There is no need to limit the concerns, cares, and licenses we give. We will receive as much or as little recognition as we are. We will not be pressured to prove our status. It will be possible to reveal our serious, absurd and compulsive and survival vulnerabilities.
It will be okay to have anger, sing badly and cry. We will be accepted if we are less attractive or disgusting for a while. We will be able to wake them up in a few hours to share grief or excitement. Our smallest scratches will be of interest. We will be able to elevate the topic of terrific glamour.
In front of lovers, the assessment will not be quick and disrespectful anymore They are superfluous from time to time. When we talk about certain things, they are unpredictable and excited. They will say ‘continue’ when we stumble and hesitate. They will admit that it is of great interest to slowly release the narrative of how we came to be who we are. They will not say “You are pathetic” and turn your back. They will search for relevant details.
They are combined into a precise image that is not fair to our inner lives. And instead of talking about us as a little weird in the face of our confession, they will say ‘me too’. Our fragile parts will be in safe hands with them. We are deeply grateful to those who do things that we may wonder are impossible: really know us well and still like us. We can escape from that and stand out and crush the feeling that the only way to make people like us is to treat most of what we are rapping.
We will start to feel like we are. Our identity will be safe. We will not be the sole guardian of our story. When the world is not interested in the chills and the erosion of us, we will be able to return to our lover to reunite, reflect back to us in terms that build confidence and comfort us. In the end, every round, we will know that in the arms of a patient with a special ability and compassionate person is an endless value for gratitude.
How Does Our Relationships Influence Love Meditation?
In the words of Judith Orloff as stated in The Ecstasy of Surrender, “The right relationships fortify your resilience and fearlessness, empowering success in all aspects of your life. No matter what happens, you know you’re not alone. You know someone’s got your back… Being valued and adored makes you stronger.”
One of the basic components of love revolves around relationships. These relationships with ourselves and with others. However, if we do not learn to love ourselves and the things we do, how can we love others? How can we give what we do not have?
In order to have and maintain a good relationship, each person has to love [herself or himself] first. Each individual needs to have a good balance between the mental, physical and spiritual. The people in a relationship should be open to suggestions and improvement. Most importantly, there must be good communication…give and take. There also needs to be attraction. Learn to spice up your relationships.
A healthy relationship to me is the coming together of two or more people who know who they are and accept themselves for what each of them represent. This entails what they stand for, and what they believe in, with the goal of enhancing each other’s lives for selfless reasons, through good communication.
People that are in a relationship should be able to trust each other. They should be people who could help motivate themselves towards the goals that they are pursuing. This could be achieved by encouraging each other to dream bigger and better. They should genuinely enjoy spending time with themselves and want to know about the welfare of each other from time to time.”
Of course, relationships can be both challenging and complicated. If anything shines a light on the human condition, it is relationships. They can be nourishing and fulfilling, bringing us the highest of highs, but, on the other side of the coin, there can also be conflict and difficult dynamics that can result in the lowest of lows. By trying a love meditation or self love meditation, we can begin cultivating more harmonious relationships with the important people in our lives (yes, including ourselves!)
When it comes to cultivating and strengthening relationships with the people we love, there aren’t many factors within our control. We cannot control how others will think or act toward us. What we can control is how we relate and respond to them. By meditating, we create the space and conditions in our mind that are conducive to developing healthy, kind, and compassionate relationships.
How Does Love Meditation Work?
It’s so easy to get lost in negative thoughts and self-doubt. Underneath those feelings of lack and insecurity often lies a deeper truth: We do not feel worthy of giving or receiving love. Societal ideals condition us to believe that we must always strive to be “better.” That means thinner, happier, richer, smarter—you get the picture. Rarely are we ever made to believe that we are enough just as we are.
Meditating on love allows us to reconnect with our heart—to remember that we deserve love. There are many ways that we can take care of ourselves and express love. We can read uplifting poetry, pamper ourselves with massage, take long walks in nature, or reach out to a friend (or therapist) for support.
Meditating on love gives permission to get real and vulnerable with ourselves. Sitting with our thoughts and feelings, rather than pushing them away, is itself an act of love. When we focus on our heart as we meditate, we are able to create a compassionate space from which we can feel, without judgment, whatever it is we need to feel. During this time we are not beating ourselves up about whatever we think we did wrong or however we think we can not “measure up.” are simply allowing ourselves to be human.
As soon as we leave the present moment and allow our thoughts (good or bad) to consume our attention, we can feel ourselves drifting away from the experience of this compassionate space.
Meditation allows us to see that thoughts aren’t permanent; they come and go. When we take a step back from them and let them pass, we see that any unworthiness we feel is only temporary.
So, instead of being hard on yourself and getting caught up in the usual “not enough” storyline when you face doubt and lack of love, breathe, and use love meditation to remind yourself that you are worthy of your own love and compassion.
When you meditate, you attract positive energies towards you. This means that your vortex vibrates in the highest frequency, since you are all surrounded by good and healing energies. A person surrounded by positive energies can only attract love.
Also, when you meditate, all of your sexual energies are balanced and thus, the desperation that you feel to have someone in your life reduces, to a certain extent. You are amazed to see the difference meditation brings into your body as well.
Furthermore, as you meditate, you draw all the negative energies away from you, pulling your soulmate closer to yourself. You communicate with your soulmate through mental telepathy.
Meditation makes you meet only those who deserve to be in your life. When your Higher Self knows that someone is not good for you, he is pushed away from your life.
A Successful Guide to Love Meditation
- Find yourself in a comfortable seated position. Use a meditation cushion or seat if you have it. You can use whatever seated relaxing position as long as it makes you feel comfortable and it’s completely pain-free.
- Take your time to find your space.
- Sit up nice and tall, keep your shoulders relaxed, close your eyes and breathe. Lay your palms softly on your thighs…
- Once you find your moment take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale out from your mouth.
- Take a moment to appreciate and acknowledge being present.
Let’s work our way to love.
- What is the reason that you forget to love yourself… your confidence… try to forget about it… try to reset what you think, you know, and start again from scratch.
Enjoy this moment as a complete moment of freedom.
- Your mind is lighter… free from all the negative thoughts… ready to get nourished with some positive vibes… for a new dose of real, profound, grounding trust.
- Keep in mind that love is not something you have to look for… this is something that is inside of you… hidden from a surface made up of worries, schedules, social masks and a wrong negative conception of yourself… you just have to release some love… give it a chance to shine… to lead you.
- What you have to look for is the perfect combination of your body and soul… a balanced, serene mood and attitude, that feels like you’re preparing a fertile soil to grow amazing, beautiful flowers as divine insights from a higher and more caring version of yourself… getting ready to release all your magic.
- This is the day and the time to let your walls down and feel free to show up with no defenses, vulnerable, widely open… with an open heart.
- Take a long deep breath in and a long deep breath out… listen to the sound of your breathing becoming heavier and heavier at every breath you take… use this moment to focus on your emotions, on how you feel…
Focus on your breath to create a regular sooth and intimate environment to cultivate a new improved mindful and open mindset.
- The sound of your breath with its vibration frequencies will show up, and it will spread all over your body nourishing at a different stage, a deeper level.
Release your sense of discomfort, of loneliness, of insecurity. Experience the present moment… because it’s time to heal… heal your emotional wounds, feeling grateful for yourself once again…
- Focus on one particular thought: think about the one thing you love about yourself.
- Inhale and smile quietly to yourself… practice kindness… be your own friend… exhale out with a sigh.
- You just have to do this with love… with loving caring gestures… a little bit every day… baby steps… explore your body… your mind… your emotions… how you really feel.
- Acknowledge it and keep things going… but this is not a race… this is not a challenge… this is the time of your life to reconnect with your true higher self… this is your time to spread your little wings and soar… higher than before… stronger than before… better than before.
- Take a deep breath and visualize a door…. with you, exhaling, try to open the door with all your energy, your power… your new confidence, and love.
- See the light waiting for you on the other side… this is the warm wave of love that you deserve for what you really are… your inner magic you often try to hide it’s now ready to spread all over your life.
- Connect to that magical light and enjoy every single ray you see, feel it all over your face, your heart, your spirit.
- Take another deep breath with a sigh… rub your hands together and generate a little heat between them.. once they are warm put them on your eyes.
- Take these last precious moments to acknowledge your commitment to this practice, to bring that light, that magic with you in your daily life.
- When you are ready, put your hands down and gently open your eyes.
The Significance of Self-Love
Why is self-love essential? We are not an idea. We are not emotions. We are not what we look like, what we wear, or what we do. Self-love helps to make sure there is something below it all and beyond it. It’s like a quiet self-confidence that underlies almost all the busyness and noise of the mind. It may sound incredibly simple, but it does start to make a little distance between yourself and your thoughts, between yourself and your emotions. Self-love gets involved and rather creates a more calm and confident state of mind.
Most importantly, in learning to share our love with others, it’s important to learn to share it with ourselves. If we can treat ourselves with gentleness and compassion, we are better equipped to extend that same quality of mind to the people around us.
Self-love can be cultivated by focusing on strengthening your self-esteem, or the thoughts we tell ourselves about the type of people we are. True self-esteem happens in the moment and comes from a peaceful mind that no longer identifies so strongly with passing thoughts and feelings, and instead recognizes them as just that — passing.
What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is how we feel about and value ourselves. A fragile sense of self is one that fluctuates day to day or moment to moment. It’s influenced by positive and negative experiences that are either externally provided (for example, when we are complimented or belittled by a coworker) or internally generated (when we reflect on our performance after a presentation). Alternatively, a stable sense of self will rarely, if ever, change.
People often assume that self-esteem and confidence are about repeating a story — one that makes us look or feel really good — in the mind over and over again. But what happens when negative thoughts inevitably creep in and challenge the validity of that story? A common approach for coping with negative thoughts is to try to forcibly change them or retrain our thinking to be more positive. But if we’re hyper-vigilant about looking out for any negative thinking, aren’t we then constantly preoccupied with negative thinking? Suddenly, this approach seems counterproductive — not to mention, exhausting.
True self-esteem, on the other hand, is being able to let go of old storylines and open ourselves up to experiencing the vulnerability and uncertainty that come with no longer having those comfortable stories to fall back on. When we’re able to recognize that our thoughts and feelings aren’t the sum total of who we are, we’re able to access a gentle, quiet confidence that’s not affected by our internal or external worlds.
It’s tempting to think that our self-esteem has been impacted by past events and is contingent on future ones. Rather, self-esteem happens in the moment and comes from a peaceful mind that no longer identifies so strongly with passing thoughts and feelings, and instead recognizes them as just that — passing. So, how do we begin to unlock the control our thoughts and feelings have over us? The answer is, of course: meditation
As stated earlier, in order to have self-love, we need to boost our self-esteem. As such, here is a quick pick-me-up self-esteem meditation. Try the following meditation which uses a technique called noting. This technique can give you a clearer sense of direction and confidence as your mind becomes burdened with thoughts or feelings during meditation practice.
As you’re focusing on the practice, it is natural for the mind to wander away. Whether it’s a thought or a feeling, take a moment to gently acknowledge it. Imagine your mind holding a feather, and extending it toward the thought. Imagine the thought being protected by soft crystal glass. Noting is the moment in which the feather softly touches the crystal glass. Recognize the mind has wandered, gently place the feather on the object of wonder, and regather your focus.
Self-Awareness Meditation and Cultivation
Just as self-love and self-esteem are integral to Love Meditation, self-awareness is not an exception. If “awareness” is about noticing stuff in the world, “self-awareness” is about focusing your awareness on yourself. It’s your ability to notice your feelings, your physical sensations, your reactions, your habits, your behaviors, and your thoughts.
You are aware of all those different aspects of yourself as if you were another person observing you. Another way to think of it is paying attention to your intuition, also known as your 6th sense or your gut feeling.
Self-awareness is about being honest with yourself. We all have a self-image of how we want others to perceive us. You might view yourself as punctual, but in reality you are often late to appointments. Self-awareness is about focusing on the reality of your behavior and not on the story you tell yourself about yourself.
To begin a short meditation on self-awareness, seat yourself in a comfortable position on the floor or on a chair. Start out your practice by looking forward with eyes open while taking in the space around you.
Once you are ready, inhale deeply through the nose and exhale through the mouth. On the exhale, close the eyes and allow the breath to return to its natural rhythm. Bring your attention to your weight. What does the body feel like pressing down? How do your feet feel against the floor? How do your hands feel against the legs?
Bring attention back to your body, and begin scanning from the top of the head toward the toes. Just observe the subtleties of your body and breath without adjusting anything. In your own time, count the breaths as they pass, until you get to 10, then repeat. As distractions start entering your mind in the form of thoughts and feelings, acknowledge them and return to the breath. When you’re ready, allow your mind 10 seconds to let go of all focus and not worry about distractions. Let them all come.
Once you’re ready, bring attention back to the body. Become more familiar with the space around you and the feeling of your body against the chair or floor. Notice the sounds and smells. In your own time, gently open your eyes and notice how you’re feeling. Remind yourself that these patterns of thought build up over a long period of time. Acknowledging and accepting them is a process.
Meditating as a Beginner
Most first-time meditators find it strange to sit in silence, to sit with their innermost thoughts and feelings, to sit and do nothing — the very things that, funnily enough, the mind tends to resist. To a beginner, meditation might initially feel a little alien, perhaps even daunting, but that’s okay. People have been meditating for around 3,000 years, and many have doubtless experienced the same reticence, trepidation, or wonder that first-time meditators often feel.
Maybe you want to start meditating because you want to be less reactive, feel less stressed, or be more focused. Maybe meditating is part of a wider personal development plan of some kind. Or maybe you’re looking to improve your relationships with those around you. Whatever the reason, training the mind through meditation is training in awareness, and training in awareness offers the potential to fundamentally transform your perspective on life.
Our entire existence is experienced through our minds, and our perspective on life can dramatically alter once we begin meditating. Being inspired to start meditating is very different from actually doing it, however, and you’ll only feel the benefits of meditation by beginning and maintaining a regular practice. In order to get meditation, you need to do meditation. In order to calm your mind, you need to begin by sitting with its untamed nature.
We are increasingly attracted to this meditation as we advance at a faster rate under the forces that seem to be out of control. We enter consciousness for a number of reasons. The main reasons are to maintain personal sacredness and activity, restore our perspective and understanding, or cope with stress-thinking and uncertainty in this era. .
Stay awake, strive to achieve what is happening today, express our senses and judgments, and act wisely. In such an event, we are grateful for our defeat and our decision. Despite all the planning and all other work, project achievements, achievements or goals, we took some time, but we found this behavior overwhelming, frustrating and very difficult. After all, the depth of mind and body, spirit and soul, the possibility and rebirth of reality, is something can make us sit and relax.
The exercises of love, compassion, joy, and contemplative behavior are mainly to shape the mind, which implies the power of this distant and changing heart. Associating these characteristics with the heart and revealing their role in exercise helps them identify them during intimate exercises. Also, I have to use my brain more frequently on this path, especially during difficult times.
This practice, especially the practice of love, is often a necessary and sensitive means of forgetting thoughts, such as the anger that may arise when it appears. In front of them. The behavior of compassion developed today can formally reduce people’s relationships to the greatest extent with an overly repressive attitude. This brings them closer and makes them less attractive.
However, in immediate practice, it maintains a loving and compassionate nature and can cover all thoughts, even in the devastating circumstances. By viewing and understanding it-by opening and judging it, we can see any anger and sadness. Visually, in the process, as we have seen, this knowledge will expand, weaken, soften, tolerate, like soap or water. What happens at such times is not only that benevolence comes from distant silence, without invitation, because this is not the case.
A major part of self-care is cultivating the right mindset – the awareness that you are worthy and deserving of love. That’s not always easy so I always recommend following or reciting an unconditional love meditation script as often as possible.If you’re going through a rough patch or you just need to be reminded that you are worthy, then don’t hesitate.